Breaking Point

Sometimes we reach a point in our lives when we just can't take things anymore. Sometimes it happens more than once to us. Actually, more often than not it happens more than once. Life happens. We get wrapped up in everything that is going on around us and we find it hard to cope. We have trouble just getting through the day. And we expect our friends to be there for us and help us through it.

A close friend of mine is going through a really hard time right now and I want more than anything in the world to be there with her to help her through it. Family matters are at the heart of her troubles, but I know how strong she is - even if she doesn't - and I know what she can handle. Though this time, things were a lot harder than they ought to be. I'm trying to be there for her as much as I can, but also not smother her.

Friendships are a balancing act. You have to know how much to give and how much to take in order for it to work properly. One person cannot always be the giving person. One person cannot be the one to listen to every problem without wanting to listen to the other's problems. One person cannot run the entire relationship. And when you're dealing with this kind of friendship (you being the giver) you cannot just keep everything to yourself. You can't constantly listen to your friend's troubles without expecting them to listen to your own... even when you think your troubles aren't a big deal. They are.

Am I making any sense?? I guess what I'm getting at is we all have things going on in our lives and we all need our friends. And the ones that need us the most are the ones out there asking for help, but you're not seeing it because you're too busy worrying about yourselves. Sometimes it's nice to be asked how we are doing. Even when we normally say we're fine, we need those friends that can look past that "I'm doing fine" crap to see that something is wrong. We all need friends that care about us... truly care about us.

I guess what I'm getting at (through all of this nonsense) is that we all need to pay a little more attention to our friends and we all need be givers in those friendships.